 Let’s continue our exploration of Denslow Brown’s Processing Modalities. If you need a refresher on this concept, read my previous post Discover Your Unique Modalities and How They Shape Your Perception. Today we look at the Emotional Modality which Brown describes as “Operating under the influence of feelings and connections to relationships, things, values, and causes.” EMOTIONAL: You could cut the tension with a knife. The feeling in the air was electric. The silence was deafening. Can you relate to these examples of picking up on others' emotions? Maybe you walk into a room and immediately sense the mood, or others seem to find your demeanor calming, or you always find yourself moved to tears at a certain song. If so, you may be considered gifted on Brown’s Processing Modality Strength Continuum. Emotionally gifted people may use their gifts as writers, actors, public speakers, or therapists. They keenly sense others' emotions and can connect to their audience. But as Brown says “These examples indicate gifted emotional understanding, and expression, but don’t necessarily reflect individual emotional maturity or health.” I think this is an important point. For those of us who can pick up on other's emotions, it's important to find healthy ways to process our own emotions and not take on the emotions of others as a way of supporting them. This has taken me a lifetime to learn! Being out of sync with our emotions can greatly affect our bodies. Whether it shows up as tension, restlessness, or fatigue, when we ignore how our mental state is impacting our physical body, we don't show up at our best and our performance and relationships suffer. Someone for whom the emotional modality is weak may be unable to detect the emotional state of others or this ability may be impaired. Those on the Autism spectrum or with conditions such as mood disorders may have a challenging time detecting their own or others' emotions.  The emotional modality also has variations in sensitivity. Some individuals may be extremely emotionally reactive and thrown into chaos by seemingly small events. This can lead to a cycle of overstimulation and exhaustion. For other individuals, they are unaware of - or unmoved by - the emotions of others, which may impact the level of connection they experience. Brown’s concept of the Processing Modality Sensitivity Continuum provides a framework for understanding these variations in sensitivity which range from hyposensitive (unaware) to competent to hypersensitive (very aware).  How do you relate to emotions? Do you fully feel your feelings when they come up, or do you shut them down? Do you love a good cry with a friend or run at the first tear? We can learn so much about our emotional state by paying attention to the sensations in our bodies, which is often the first clue that something is going on. When that tension shows up in your neck, or you feel the familiar urge to start scrolling through Instagram, take a moment to tap into the sensations in your body. Feel them fully for a few breaths then ask "What is needed in this moment to support my body and mind?" Learn about all nine Processing Modalities: VISUAL The Power of Sight: Engaging with Your Surroundings Using the Visual Modality AUDITORY The Art of Listening: How Sound and Silence Influence Our Productivity KINESTHETIC Build Focus with Movement: Understanding the Mind-Body Connection TACTILE Feeling the Difference: How Touch Affects Your Space and Mood TASTE & SMELL Elevate Your Workspace: Using Taste & Smell for a More Inspiring Environment VERBAL Verbal Processing Modalities: How Language Shapes Our Experience EMOTIONAL How Emotions Influence our Bodies and our Ability to Stay Focused COGNITIVE Knowing Your Mind: Navigating the Cognitive Modality INTUITIVE Cultivating Intuitive Knowing: Learning to Tap into Your Inner Wisdom © 2013 Denslow Brown. From the book, The Processing Modalities Guide by Denslow Brown Hickory Guild Press, 2012 $25 www.OrganizerCoach.com Ready to take action?
Schedule a complimentary Clarity Call to get started.  Let’s continue our exploration of Denslow Brown’s Processing Modalities. If you need a refresher on this concept, read my previous post Discover Your Unique Modalities and How They Shape Your Perception. Today we look at the verbal modality. Brown states “This modality is about language and involves the language centers of the brain.” The verbal modality includes both oral and written language expression. VERBAL: Oral (Speaking & Listening), Written (Reading & Writing) When I think of all the ways that humans have invented to communicate our thoughts to others it’s astounding! We have speech, writing, gestures, and intonation. When needing to communicate at a distance we invented smoke signals, Morse code, telephones, and the internet. This wide array of methods highlights our intrinsic desire to connect with others through language in all its forms. People have such varied preferences when it comes to language and communication. For some, discussing a problem with a friend can be incredibly beneficial. This conversational approach allows them to articulate their thoughts and feelings out loud, gaining immediate feedback and emotional support. The act of verbalizing their concerns helps them process and understand the issue more clearly. Others find solace in writing about their challenges in a journal. For these people, putting pen to paper provides a different kind of clarity. Writing allows them to reflect deeply, organize their thoughts, and explore solutions in a more private and introspective way. Although these are different methods, both involve strong verbal modality abilities and are examples of what Brown calls the Processing Modality Strength Continuum, which can range from weak to tolerant to gifted.  The verbal modality also has variations in sensitivity. For some individuals, verbal processing can be notably taxing. This is particularly evident in situations where they are exposed to constant streams of verbal information, such as lengthy conferences or endless Zoom meetings. For these people, an overload of verbal content can lead to mental fatigue, stress, or headaches. For other people, when they are focused on something they enjoy they can tune out the world and not hear a word that is said, much to their family members dismay! Brown’s concept of the Processing Modality Sensitivity Continuum provides a framework for understanding these variations in sensitivity which range from hyposensitive (unaware) to competent to hypersensitive (very aware).  How do you prefer to express yourself? Are you more at ease in large gatherings or one-on-one interactions? Do you enjoy using language, either verbally or in writing? If so, are there ways to incorporate language into your life in new and supportive ways? You could consider trying a daily mantra or giving yourself a weekly writing prompt. Learn about all nine Processing Modalities: VISUAL The Power of Sight: Engaging with Your Surroundings Using the Visual Modality AUDITORY The Art of Listening: How Sound and Silence Influence Our Productivity KINESTHETIC Build Focus with Movement: Understanding the Mind-Body Connection TACTILE Feeling the Difference: How Touch Affects Your Space and Mood TASTE & SMELL Elevate Your Workspace: Using Taste & Smell for a More Inspiring Environment VERBAL Verbal Processing Modalities: How Language Shapes Our Experience EMOTIONAL How Emotions Influence our Bodies and our Ability to Stay Focused COGNITIVE Knowing Your Mind: Navigating the Cognitive Modality INTUITIVE Cultivating Intuitive Knowing: Learning to Tap into Your Inner Wisdom © 2013 Denslow Brown. From the book, The Processing Modalities Guide by Denslow Brown Hickory Guild Press, 2012 $25 www.OrganizerCoach.co Ready to take action?
Schedule a complimentary Clarity Call to get started.  Today we continue our exploration of Denslow Brown’s Processing Modalities. If you need a refresher on this concept, read my previous post Discover Your Unique Modalities and How They Shape Your Perception. Today we look at the auditory modality. Brown states “This modality, the act of hearing, is experienced through the ears, the brain’s auditory processing center, and the language areas of the brain.” AUDITORY: Hearing I recently bought some noise-canceling headphones. I wear them at home while doing chores or writing. Wearing them creates a different headspace for me, one in which the world seems to retreat and I can focus on the task at hand. When I take them off, I notice that the sudden burst of noise from the outside world is overwhelming. Sound and silence can be so powerful. My husband and daughter live in a world defined by music. They are constantly listening to it, interacting with it, and sharing it. My husband plays the guitar and my daughter is always making a new Spotify playlist. Enjoying music is an integral part of who they are and this strength is an example of what Brown calls the Processing Modality Strength Continuum, which can range from weak to tolerant to gifted.  Brown explains that in addition to our modality preferences, we have varying strengths with each modality, ranging from weak to competent to gifted. I also enjoy listening to quiet music when I work, but it can't have any lyrics. If someone turns on the TV or talk radio in the room next door, my brain just shuts down. It's incredible how paralyzing it is for me! This is an example of what Brown calls the Processing Modality Sensitivity Continuum, which can range from Hyposensitive (oblivious) to competent to Hypersensitive (very aware). My high sensitivity in the audio modality isn't always easy for my music-loving family members, but we work it out.  We have varying sensitivities across different modalities ranging from hyposensitive (unaware) to tolerant to hypersensitive (very aware). Think about how your auditory strengths and sensitivities influence your productivity. Does the sound or silence in your workspace support your productivity? Are there auditory distractions (a loud co-worker) or sources of inspiration (twittering birds)? Is there a change you can make to create a more supportive environment for yourself? Learn about all nine Processing Modalities: VISUAL The Power of Sight: Engaging with Your Surroundings Using the Visual Modality AUDITORY The Art of Listening: How Sound and Silence Influence Our Productivity KINESTHETIC Build Focus with Movement: Understanding the Mind-Body Connection TACTILE Feeling the Difference: How Touch Affects Your Space and Mood TASTE & SMELL Elevate Your Workspace: Using Taste & Smell for a More Inspiring Environment VERBAL Verbal Processing Modalities: How Language Shapes Our Experience EMOTIONAL How Emotions Influence our Bodies and our Ability to Stay Focused COGNITIVE Knowing Your Mind: Navigating the Cognitive Modality INTUITIVE Cultivating Intuitive Knowing: Learning to Tap into Your Inner Wisdom © 2013 Denslow Brown. From the book, The Processing Modalities Guide by Denslow Brown Hickory Guild Press, 2012 $25 www.OrganizerCoach.com  New to coaching? Not sure if it's right for you? Take the quick Mindset Quiz is to determine if coaching with is a fit for you. Take it below!  A few years ago I did a wonderful day of letterpress printing at my friend Thea Sizemore's studio (Kavamore Press) in Oakland. I was a graphic designer for 15 years and absolutely love everything about letterpress printing — setting the type, mixing the ink, the physicality of cranking a Vandercook press, and the tactile nature of the final product.
Thea asked that I bring some text to print and I instantly thought of this Mary Oliver quote. I’ve loved it ever since I first heard it. Whenever I come across this quote it takes me back to the fleeting preciousness of life. How, when we allow it to be, it can be glorious and filled with wonder. When I hear this quote it makes me think about how I’m approaching my day. Am I just checking things off my list or am I tapping into something bigger? Getting things done is great, but sitting in a field in the sun can also be a perfect way to spend the day. Mary Oliver’s full poem The Summer Day is below. Enjoy. The Summer Day Who made the world? Who made the swan, and the black bear? Who made the grasshopper? This grasshopper, I mean -- the one who has flung herself out of the grass, the one who is eating sugar out of my hand, who is moving her jaws back and forth instead of up and down -- who is gazing around with her enormous and complicated eyes. Now she lifts her pale forearms and thoroughly washes her face. Now she snaps her wings open, and floats away. I don't know exactly what a prayer is. I do know how to pay attention, how to fall down into the grass, how to kneel down in the grass, how to be idle and blessed, how to stroll through the fields, which is what I have been doing all day. Tell me, what else should I have done? Doesn't everything die at last, and too soon? Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life? - Mary Oliver  Image: Corina Ardeleanu Unsplash Our bodies are sending us signals all the time. Whether it's butterflies in our stomach or a racing heart, our body is communicating with us. Often the last thing we want to do is listen. But as it turns out, listening to our bodies is one of the best things we can do for our well-being. THE NARRATIVE SELF Who are we? We all have a story about our lives that we tell ourselves. This story is ongoing, and often all-consuming, but something we barely notice. It can bring us joy or pain, happiness or sadness. But whatever the story is, it affects how we perceive our reality. It turns out this “story of us” narrative thinking takes place in a specific area of the brain called the Default Mode Network. The neural imaging research of Prof. Norman Farb shows us that when we are thinking of things related to “ourselves”, it lights up an area down the center line of our brains. These areas of narrative thinking are the part of the brain that is “on” by default. This is our automatic thinking - the stuff we don’t even notice. This is also the place where things such as negative and positive self-talk occur. We could call this thinking our constructed identity or ego. Research shows us that at the same time that our automatic thinking is “on”, another part of the brain is actively being suppressed. This is the physical-sensory part of the brain. When we are engaged in automatic thinking, we are actively suppressing physical sensory information. THE EXPERIENTIAL SELF Is there another way to relate to our existence? Yes, it’s called the experiential mode. Prof. Farb scanned research subjects both before and after taking an eight-week Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) class. In these classes, participants were given 20 hours of mindfulness training, much of it based on sitting in physical sensory experience. When participants' brains were scanned after the eight-week class, these subjects showed the ability to “turn down” the volume in the automatic, narrative area of the brain. They were simultaneously able to “turn up” the volume on the parts of the brain associated with momentary sensory experience. In other words, they could stay in a place of sensory intake longer, and sit in their physical experience without getting sucked back into their story. WHY DOES IT MATTER? Is one mode of thinking better for us than the other? Prof. Farb’s research shows that being in a place of sensory intake helped people relate to their experience in a more flexible way. As he stated, it helps us see that “the perspective you are holding is just one of many options… being able to shift between two ways of perceiving a situation is a game-changer.” In his research on depression, he found that people with the MBSR training were able to interrupt negative narratives and not wholly buy into them. They stopped telling the story long enough to question it and remember there are other ways of thinking about their experience. In neural imaging, he found that people who have depression are blocking out the sensory information coming from their bodies and instead focusing on the narrative story. In short, we can improve our emotional health and well-being by training ourselves to sit with physical sensations.  What does this all mean for coaching? Helping clients to get out of “the story in their head” and into “the sensation in their bodies” can be enormously beneficial to their well-being. By giving clients tools that promote body-centered mindfulness, coaches can help them access greater flexibility of thinking, curiosity about their experience, and the capacity to sit with uncomfortable feelings. Dr. Farb’s research subjects took an eight-week Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) class, but we can start with a simpler practice — a short (two-minute!) meditation with your phone or fitness tracker. If you want to be tech-free, sit in the sun, close your eyes, and feel the breeze on your face. Giving ourselves a moment of sensory intake can help us shift from a reactive state to a responsive one. Being able to shift our perspective is important in coaching, and it's wonderful to know that our bodies can help us create this opening for change. My question for you: If you notice yourself feeling stressed, try the below centering exercise or another form of body awareness such as a short meditation. How do you feel afterward? Could this be a tool to help increase your presence? See you soon. For more on mindfulness see My Favorite Centering Exercise. RESOURCES: “How Mindfulness Changes Your Brain with Prof. Norman Farb”, School of Becoming Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction MBSR was developed at the Stress Reduction Clinic at UMass Medical Center by Jon Kabat-Zinn. Classes are widely available online. Ten Percent Happier Podcast This is a wonderful educational podcast created by Dan Harris. I love that Dan approaches each mindfulness idea as both a believer and a skeptic. Give it a listen! Tara Brach Podcast Tara Brach is a meditation teacher and author who shares her talks and guided meditations through her podcast. With her relaxing voice, humor, and plenty of wisdom, these are the perfect evening guided meditations.  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