 Image: Jordan Sanchez Unsplash "Will you help me with my to-do list?" “Are you going to give me tips and tricks?” "Can't you just tell me what to do?" These are some of the questions I get asked when I tell people I'm a coach. Coaching is a word that is used in a lot of different ways — there can be sports coaches, voice coaches, and life coaches — to name a few. As you can imagine, they all do very different things! Coaching is also often confused with other modalities like therapy, consulting, teaching, counseling, or mentoring. However, it's distinct from all of them. The International Coaching Federation defines coaching as "Partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential. Coaches honor the client as the expert in his or her life and work and believe every client is creative, resourceful and whole." Coaching IS an equal partnership between the coach and the client, based on an open dialogue and a commitment to growth. Coaching is present and forward-focused, and engaged in finding the client's expertise about themselves. Through working with a coach, clients can develop self-awareness, look at the perspectives they hold, and embark on a supported journey of change. It's an opportunity to explore and ignite one's superpowers. Coaching IS NOT giving advice, taking the lead, or being the expert. I don't take clients through a predetermined program. We create change by getting curious about what is and isn’t working, focusing on strengths, and building self-awareness. Yes, we will likely look at your to-do list, your schedule, and your focus challenges, but we also get grounded in your values, needs, and goals. What Coaching IS: An equal partnership Present and future-focused An opportunity for greater self-awareness Focused on growth and action Supportive accountability Individualized for each client What Coaching IS NOT: Coaching is not therapy Coaching is not mentoring Coaching is not consulting Coaching is not counseling Coaching is not prescriptive It's not advice-giving To better understand how coaching differs from other learning modalities take a look at this document Coaching vs. Training from fellow coach Casey Moore. If you're new to coaching and unsure if it's right for you, take the free, quick Coachability Self-Test to determine if coaching is a fit for you at this time. If you like this post then you may like The Power of Envisioning Your Future. See you soon.  If you’re ready to discover the power of coaching schedule a complimentary Clarity Call today.
 Image: Jade Stephens Unsplash Have you ever developed mastery in a skill or subject and thought “Wow, I can't believe I can do this now!” Whether it’s learning French, mastering a martial art, baking the perfect sourdough loaf, or gaining a new job skill, expertise is an amazing feeling. But how did you get there? Through my coach training, I found that the journey from novice to expert is called The Four Stages of Competence. This concept was developed by Noel Burch at Gordon Training International in the ’70s and still rings true today — we go through four stages to achieve mastery of a new skill. These stages are: Stage 1: Unconscious Incompetence (Ignorance) When we begin to learn a new skill, we often start from a state of unconscious incompetence. At this stage, we lack knowledge about the skill, and we may not even be aware of our lack of knowledge. The motto for this stage is "You don't know what you don't know.” Stage 2: Conscious Incompetence (Awareness) We now have some knowledge about our need for more skills. We are also conscious that there is much we need to learn before mastery is achieved. Stage 3: Conscious Competence (Learning) Through actively learning, we now know how to do the desired skill but it requires practice and effort. Stage 4: Unconscious Competence (Mastery) In this stage, the skill is now easy for us to perform and can be done unconsciously and without much effort.  So how do these stages work? Think about learning to drive. We start with having no idea of the many rules and skills involved in driving. Then, we take drivers’ ed and start to understand how much there is to learn. When we’re first behind the wheel, our driving requires great effort and attention. As our experience grows, driving becomes second nature. I relate to these four stages of learning in many areas of my life. I love to paint with watercolors, for example, but even after many years, I feel that I am solidly in Stage 2, Conscious Incompetence. I marvel at others’ ability to paint with beauty and ease. How does this concept relate to coaching? Suppose you want to focus on greater health, and getting more sleep is at the top of your list. Stage 1: In the unconscious incompetence stage, you may be aware that you’re not feeling rested in the morning, but haven’t given much thought to the cause. Stage 2: In the conscious incompetence stage, you start to get educated about all the many factors that impact your sleep such as caffeine, morning and evening light, stress, and exercise. Stage 3: In the conscious competence stage you, begin to put this knowledge into action, trying out different strategies to improve your sleep and create better habits. Stage 4: In the unconscious competence stage, your new habits are now ingrained. When you have a poor night's sleep, you can review all that you know about your sleep to help get you back on track. Learning new skills and changing habits is a lifelong journey that may seem daunting initially, but even small changes can yield big results. The first step is developing awareness of the knowledge gap. That’s where coaching can help. My question for you: Is there an area of your life where you can’t seem to find traction? Is there a knowledge gap? Where could you get some education to start building your competence? If you like this post then you may like How to Hack your Brain with your Body. See you soon.  Don't miss my newsletter, Find Your Focus. It’s full of useful and practical ways to bridge the gap between knowing and doing to help you reach your goals. Newsletter subscribers also receive special discounts and first access to upcoming group coaching offers and memberships.
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